Since June 4th I have been on a roller coaster ride of first’s and some lasts as well. Incase you missed it I got married back on June 4th. This is my first marriage and as far as I am concerned my last as well. To quote Luke Dane, “The 0nly way out now is in a body bag.”
Fast forwarding to a couple of weeks ago we purchased our first home. Short of a major promotion this will be our only home that we purchase as well. Full disclosure it was not our first attempt at purchasing our first home. That saga is a story for another time.
For the final first we have to rewind back to the tail end of January when my wife and I found out that we will be having our first child in September. This will not be our only child. Plans are to expand the clan out by at least 2 younglings.
When experiencing each of these first’s it was always a mixed feeling of sheer terror and boundless joy. Imagine Homer Simpson’s patented scream and “woo hoo” back to back if you will. I’m sure everyone that was or will be in my position can sympathize. Still trying to figure out how to “adult”, but soon will also have to figure out how to parent as well.
My dad is sometimes a pain in the ass, but he is still my dad and I love him. Our relationship is no where in the ballpark of those you see on sitcom’s and I wouldn’t have it any other way. To be honest it could probably be better, but we both work on it now and again. As I progress further into my own adulthood we do a better job of being father and son.
As I watch the world around me progress and I move forward with my own life I realize how good of a job my father has done and continues to do of raising both me and my sister. Although I don’t have my own kids yet, but I watch and hear other fathers, I realize that my dad did do a lot. More than most probably. It’s when these other dads fail to measure up to even the minimum that my mind becomes boggled.
When it does become my turn to be dad I have already resigned myself to the fact that I’m probably going to screw up. There’s no amount of classes, books, or lectures that can help prepare a parent. Learn on the fly and take what you know worked from your parents and figure out to improve on what didn’t. At the end of the day it’s about minimizing the negative and reinforcing the positive.
Alright I’ll just stop here before I give myself a case of the “feels”.
So while watching Inside Edition I was enlightened to a disturbing statistic that last year 31 students were trapped by the bus doors and then drug across the ground. I did zero research into that number, but my guess is there is some validity to it. Relax people I now Inside Edition is normally filled with a bunch of bullshit, but occasionally they throw something like this in there and I’m more inclined than not to believe it.
Lets just say that this only happens one time per year. That is unacceptable to me. If you drive a bus of any kind you need to be heads up and on a swivel at all times. Especially with a school bus. I understand that you have a lot to pay attention to while driving and the rowdy kids at the back of the bus don’t always help. However, when students are being let off the bus it is at a stand still and in park. So part of your attention is not immediately divided for driving.
With that being said there should be no hurry at the bus stop. Were not exactly dropping troops into a hot LZ and you have to dust off quick. Your waiting to make sure the kids clear from around the bus what is to make sure they are completely cleared from the entrance/exit way as well. Let’s also examine the door control as well.
Most buses in the school district I work for although newer still have the manual control arm to open and shut the doors. When shutting them if it takes a little more pressure than normal to shut the doors something is clearly wrong and quick turn of the head should reveal the issue. Should you be a bus driver lucky enough to have a bus equipped with an electronic open/close device I would think it would be all that much more important to make sure the entrance/exit is clear so as not to put undo stress on the hydraulic unit.
I may just be shouting into the void about nothing here, but common sense should be employed in general.